Today’s post is the fifth in a series of posts on Parents of the Bible. These posts are the outcome of the question, “How do I be a good parent?” I am looking at the Bible stories we already know and seeing what I can learn about parenting. Throughout the summer, I hope to share some of what I have discovered.
Today’s post is designed to be read more like short devotional than a regular post. My hope is that as you read it, you will allow God’s Word to penetrate your heart and influence your thinking.
Genesis 27:5-13 ESV
Now Rebekah was listening when Isaac spoke to his son Esau. So when Esau went to the field to hunt for game and bring it, Rebekah said to her son Jacob, “I heard your father speak to your brother Esau, ‘Bring me game and prepare for me delicious food, that I may eat it and bless you before the Lord before I die.’ Now therefore, my son, obey my voice as I command you. Go to the flock and bring me two good young goats, so that I may prepare from them delicious food for your father, such as he loves. And you shall bring it to your father to eat, so that he may bless you before he dies.” But Jacob said to Rebekah his mother, “Behold, my brother Esau is a hairy man, and I am a smooth man. Perhaps my father will feel me, and I shall seem to be mocking him and bring a curse upon myself and not a blessing.” His mother said to him, “Let your curse be on me, my son; only obey my voice, and go, bring them to me.”
A year ago, this passage of scripture took on new meaning for me. I had always looked at this passage with an eye of superior disapproval at the trickery that took place. As I have been studying Bible parents, I’ve seen that this story is full of application for my life.
Rebecka told her son to trick his blind, elderly father. Who does that? And why?
As I pondered those questions, I wondered what kind of relationship Rebecka had with Isaac. Their relationship seems to have started out well.
Then Isaac brought her into the tent of Sarah his mother and took Rebekah, and she became his wife, and he loved her. So Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death. Genesis 24:67 ESV
What happened? As I looked at the next two chapters, I found a few clues. Abraham died; Rebekah was barren; when she did conceive, she had a horrible pregnancy; Isaac lies about their relationship, saying that she is his sister; there are quarrels with villagers over water rights; and Esau takes two wives that make life bitter for Isaac and Rebekah.
If I had been in Rebekah’s place, I would have been tempted to become bitter toward my husband. When I am mad at husband, I can act horribly towards him. And that animosity affects my children.
In Isaac and Rebekah’s case, it greatly affected the relationship between Jacob and Esau.
Here is my take away from Rebekah – Take care of the issues and irritations in your marriage. Don’t let them fester and build. If they aren’t dealt with, they will destroy your marriage and will affect your children.